Apr 9, 2012

Everyone Needs A 'Real' Friend

Okay so this blog is NOT about finding a good "best" friend, or how to tell the difference between a true friend and someone who's around you for something you have. This is NOT what this blog is about, honestly by now if you can't figure those things out then you have some other issues and my blog (well not this post) will not help you. This post came about through a conversation I was having with a friend. We were talking about relationships, and how different people think and react to situations. It wasn't a ground breaking conversation and I really wasn't super enlightened, but I did gain valuable insight. Insight I could gain only from a female.

I personally feel like every person should have a friend of the opposite sex, a TRUE friend. Meaning,
(1.) You can't have an underlining motive with that person: (2.) You can't have EVER dated that person, and (3.) You honestly have to be able to say to yourself: "If we both were drunk, together:
-Would I make a move??
-Would she?? Or
-Would we just chill laugh and pass out together??"

If you answer yes to any of those questions BESIDES the last one...then that person don't fit the bill.

So you have a friend that falls into that category then they definitely should be used (Not used like "use and abuse" but like how you use a teacher. Like to learn and gain valuable insight from lol).

If you have a friend of the opposite sex
(*critical* THAT WILL BE HONEST WITH YOU *critical*) then you have a great opportunity. Now you would think that I wouldn't have to emphasis the honesty part because we all "should" want honest friends in our life, but that definitely isn't true. Sometimes people have fluff friends...good intentions, big hearts, but only see the positive side to every situation. Those are the friends that always start a statement off with, "Well maybe..."

-"Well maybe that wasn't him in the movies last night sitting with that girl."
-"Well. Maybe she not answering the phone cuz she lost it in the club son?"
-"Well maybe somebody found your wallet last week and they're still going to call you to get it."

...that's NOT what you need. You need a friend that will keep it real with you, one that will tell you all things that you really DIDN'T really want to hear. That friend that will tell you that the female you been soo excited to hang out with this weekend just walked out of the neighbors apartment at 2 in the morning and says, "Well Maybe you shouldn't talk to her anymore because she looks like she has all the attention she needs!"

Now granted a friend of the opposite sex can open up doors to unexplained phenomenon...Thoughts and actions you could never rationalize before, give you all tips and tricks. But the real challenge in this whole thing is finding someone who fits those descriptions of what a friend of the opposite sex "should" because honestly not too many of them exist....

Why So Serious?!









Welcome Back Self

Been way too long since I've posted. I honestly don't even know where to start. So many things have happened to me. Found love, lost love. Gained friends, rekinlded friendships. Been sheltered, homeless, and found house I can call a home, all in this time. I have learned soo many things, experienced many things and raised A LOT questions. I finally have some time to put my thoughts down and I have a lot to say. I'll be posting pictures of my new residence soon. I may even do a picture timeline of the progression of my house...and hopefully the end of the timeline doesn't have my house looking like the one on that Project X movie.

*turns up* Sam Cooke- "A change is Gonna Come"

Why So Serious?!